What’s the difference between reacting and responding? It might seem small, but it can make a big difference in how you handle challenges.
Let’s look at an example from sports. Imagine you’re playing a game, and an opponent bumps into you or insults you. The goal of their behavior is to throw you off your game. If you stay focused, the provocation might only be a minor annoyance. But if it makes you lose your composure, the opponent wins.
In one Australian Rules football game, a star player was verbally targeted by the opposition. He lost control emotionally, mentally, and physically. Anger overwhelmed him, and his thoughts became dominated by a desire for retaliation. He lashed out at players—even teammates—and was removed from the game. Sadly, it was his last match. The team couldn’t trust him to stay composed under pressure, so his career ended prematurely.
Some players, however, handle such situations differently. Instead of reacting impulsively, they respond calmly. They manage their emotions, thoughts, and actions. This approach is called having an “Internal Locus of Control.” It means you take charge of your reactions, rather than letting external events dictate your behavior.
Think of it like driving a car. You keep your hands on the steering wheel, staying in control. You don’t let your emotions, physical sensations, or thoughts “inflate” and take over. When faced with provocation, remember: you are the driver. Keep a firm grip on the steering wheel and focus on your road.
During World War II, the British encouraged people to “Keep Calm and Carry On” despite bombings. The message? Stay composed and focused, even under pressure. Brave individuals saved St. Paul’s Cathedral by calmly doing their jobs in the midst of chaos.
When challenges arise, practice telling yourself, “I can handle this.” Visualize staying calm and in control. Then, when it’s over, take a moment to say, “Well done!”
